Coaching is premised on the belief that you (and I) are already whole, resourceful, capable and creative

Wednesday 3 December 2014

Sometimes it is OK to Let-go of the Structure


Sometimes it is ok to let go of the structure. 

A 'breakthrough' for the Client is a moment of celebration!

As Coaches we can let the Client remain in the moment; bask in it's glory . 


Quell the urge to a logical next step, towards the next powerful question,a summary,a closure. 

Allow the Client to 'soak' in the breakthrough.

To stay in that moment 'when heaviness lifts' of lightness.


"An image that one of my teachers has given is: when you hit a gong, the moment when the sound happens is like the glimpse of the awakened state. But then you don’t keep hitting the gong. You just let the original sound continue. If you try to hit the gong again and again, then you actually end up pushing the experience further away because of your greed to keep repeating it."

The shift of perspective takes some time to be internalised; to allow that is to really allow the Process.

'Stay in it' is ok for me too - the Coach, by letting go of the imagined structure I am only allowing the Process to take its course.